Circumcision
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A common and relatively simple procedure. Some do it for religious or cultural reasons, some for hygienic reasons and strongly believe it should be done. Others think that it’s an unethical and unnecessary procedure, that a male should be able to choose for himself, and that they wouldn’t fell “complete”. 

Do you believe circumcision is necessary? 
Sharon Blessed
I would sure do it if I had a son. I am not good with the look of that un cut or the smell which is awful. I won't date a man that way ever.
Kenneth Kane
LOLOL The picture for this topic is so funny! I can't stop laughing! I never thought of it this way btw, but the banana I ate this morning is really having a hard time digesting...
Starla Gaines
I wonder what the odds are for men actually needing to have it done when they are older. That would be very good information to know.
Starla Gaines
I have two sons and the first got circumcised whereas my second did not. I would not have with my first had I looked more into it. What is done is done though. I just feel like it isn't necessary.
Lindy H.
Starla, you can't go back and change the past and I am sure you did what you felt was right for your child. However, I am happy to hear that you didn't circumcise your second. You shouldn't beat yourself up over the first .
Starla Gaines
Thanks for your reply. I agree. It's not something I think much about anymore. I did beat myself p over it in the past but there's no use in doing that :)
Kimberly Coleman
This picture is funny but I agree. I think it's not only cosmetic but can be better as far as infection goes to have this procedure done.
Lynn Marie
I think is shoudl be done. I go for hygeine purposes. i dont want to have to put my son through that later in life. Much easier when they are newborns
Starla Gaines
I don't know about it being easier. My second son is intact and I found it just as easy if not easier. I did not have to worry about putting Vaseline on it or being careful not to hurt the area after it being cut.
Morgan Barker
So what if it requires cleaning? To quote Penn Jillette: "It's not hard to get a teenage boy to rub his c*ck in the shower".
Lindsey M
I just felt like commenting on how I find it slight humorous that the picture for this topic is a banana.
Mary Kirkland
I did a lot of research when I was pregnant and that was 23 years ago. Because my daughter's father and I weren't married at the time of her birth the hospital told me that it was completely my decision if I had a boy whether or not to have him circumcised that if I said no and the father said yes, they would not do it because we weren't married and everything was my decision while we were in the hospital. I ended up having a girl but if I'd had a boy he would not have been circumcised because it's cosmetic surgery and a complete myth that it's needed for cleanliness or health reasons. When my daughter got pregnant and I found out she was having a boy, I let her know that because she and the father were not married the decision was completely up to her even if the father wanted the circumcision. I sent her all sorts of info about it but it was the youtube video of a newborn baby being strapped down and screaming while being circumcised that made her mind up for her. Thankfully she didn't have my grandson circumcised even though the father wanted him to be.
Lindy H.
I think its great that you did the research and didn't just believe the myths! I also chose not have my son circumcised because there is no good reason to do it.
Lindsey M
I don't think it's right that only the mother can make the decisions. The father is just as much a part of it as the mother, especially if they are in the child's life. Personally, I don't care either way for circumcision but the whole decision thing is a little annoying.
Samantha Barney
I think if the dad is on the birth certificate he should be able to make decisions, however I think if one parent doesn't want a procedure done on the child it shouldn't be done
Mary Kirkland
I guess when a couple isn't married at the time of the birth all decisions at least in this state fall to the mother and I agree with you that if both parents don't agree on it then it shouldn't be done at all and the hospital felt the same way. If both parents don't agree they won't do it.
Rylee Logan
I didn't get either of my boys done, it's their body and their decision to get a part of their body removed or not. It isn't "cleaner" to get it done, they learn to keep themselves clean just fine with no issues whatsoever.
Lindy H.
Exactly! We don't have our females circumcised because its cleaner so why should we do anything different with our sons?
Punky Brewster
If I have a boy I will have him cIrcumsised as soon as possible, so that way he won't remember it . It's a lot cleaner for them
Lindy H.
This is a myth Punky. I would recommend doing some more research because as long as you are teaching your son how to properly clean himself you shouldn't have any problems.
Morgan Barker
I don't think it's fair to change a part of someone's body without their consent. You wouldn't do it to an adult, or even an older child, so why do it to a baby?
Lindy H.
I totally agree! If they get older and want the procedure done then that is great. However, I refuse to make cosmetic decisions with no medical backing for my son.
Lindy H.
I do not believe in getting babies circumcised unless there is a medical reason. It is not your body to mess with when they are that young. Let them grow up and decide what is best for them. Circumcision does not make boys more healthy nor does it do much more than mutilate your already perfect sons. Before having your son circumcised I advise doing some strong research, I am sure you will reach the same conclusions. P.S. I love the photo.
Laura Shops
I have done my research, and I did not reach the same conclusions as you. All three of my sons have been circumcised, and my husband and I have no regrets.
Adrienne L.
I agree with Laura, I did TONS of research (as any parent would do when making a major decision about their child) and I came to the opposite conclusion than you did as well. I think it's fine that we disagree and I respect your choice but I think it's kind of rude to assume that people who disagree with you do so out of ignorance.
Lindy H.
It is a purely cosmetic procedure it is even classified as such. That is why I am against it. I'm not trying to come off as rude but I do believe if more people recognized the myths surrounding this practice they wouldn't do it. Laura may I ask why you chose to have all your sons circumcised?
pam w.
(First...I LOVE that banana photo...) I know several adult men who are VERY ANGRY because their parents chose to have them circumsized! They see it as a kind of mutilation.

Secondly, I've know two men who SHOULD have been circumcized and weren't! They each have a smal, tight foreskin and erections aren't always comfortable for them.

Interestingly, when I suggested circumcision...both of them were adamantly against it.
Adrienne L.
I know, the picture makes me cringe and laugh at the same time! I don't personally know any men who are mad that their parents chose to have it done, I did see a video of a man who said that he was mad about it and I felt confused as to how he could KNOW what kind of difference it would have made?
Stephanie Brewer
The photo is the only reason why I clicked on this topic. Inappropriate and awesome all at the same time! I don't know men that are angry that they did, but my husband did know someone who was angry that his parents didn't have him circumcised. In his 30's he developed an infection and had to have one... it took over a month to heal. Our son was circumcised.
Adrienne L.
Yipes Stephanie! I can't imagine having an infection like that. Makes me glad I sidestepped that for my son too (hopefully he doesn't become one of those angry men when he gets older lol.
Donna Andrews
Like most here have said, its a personal choice for the parents. If you wait for the child to decide when they are older it causes more pain and they will remember it a lot more than if it is done when they are a baby.

My older son is because his dad made a big deal about it.
My younger son's father was not and he told me it was up to me if I wanted it done and he didn't care either way. So I didn't have it done. i remember all the trouble I went through when my oldest had his done. He had issues with my milk and we switched him to formula and that made it worse. He constantly had diareah and it caused infection where he was circed, even though I tried desperately to keep it as clean as possible. Because of that it took forever to heal.

so with my younger son I talked to the pediatritian about it and she said its just a personal choice, it doesn't really need to be done and if he had problems it could be done at 6 months or even 1 yr old. so I just didn't have it done. He's going to be 10 next month and so far it doesn't seem like a big deal to him. Hes seen his brother and asked why they look different and I explained it to him and he was like OOOOWWWIIIEEE that would hurt I'm glad you didn't do that to me.
Marcia Robinson
i think it is healthier to be circumcised because you really need to clean under the skin so you dont infections. but i also think it is a personal choice .
Melanie Perreault Wynn
Marcia I have to totally agree with you I would of been a Mum 10-years ago if I would of had a son I would of made sure he got circumcised before leaving hospital, foreskin is very dirty and unhealthy no offense to uncut guys, yes it is a personal choice especially it's up to the parents if they want their sons circumcised
Lindy H.
Actually its not healthier that is a complete myth. You should teach your children how to properly clean themselves not just cut off parts of their body.
Morgan Barker
Lindy's right. So what if it takes a bit of maintenance? At least you're not missing a part of your body, at least your ability to find sex pleasurable is intact.
Jaime Watson
I don't feel that circumcision is "necessary," but I do completely respect a parent's right to make this choice. My husband has said repeatedly that he is very glad that he was circumcised. I was raised with a Jewish heritage and therefore never thought twice about having my son circumcised.
Adrienne L.
I agree with everything that you said. I let my husband decide when our son was born since I don't own the equipment in question lol. He chose to have it done and that is what we did.
Amanda P
I have a son and didn't circumcise him. My brother who's the same age, same thing! Later on though, my brother NEEDED it done, for medical reasons, but my son is ok. He did one time tell his dad he wanted it, lol, so that will be up to him. Yes, it's painful, I assume, but it won't last. Here in Nevada, if you have Medicaid, I think it's free! I called around, so it's an option, but he now says he doesn't want it done!
Johnny Dod
I think the picture is very clever John, I am of the same thinking as you... apart from problems with your **** why on Earth would you have it done?
John Welford
Why on earth would anyone even dream of doing this to their child? Even if they are Jewish I would hope that they would have second thoughts about it.

There is absolutely no good reason for a boy to be "cut". There is no medical advantage, it does not improve hygiene in any way, it does not make a blind bit of difference to the sexual performance of a man if he is missing his foreskin, so the only possible reason one could imagine is that it is the "traditional" thing to do in some societies.

As with all traditions, if that is the only reason for doing something it's probably a very bad reason!
Amanda P
Well said John :)
Teresa Johnston
@John, my husband and I had come to the same conclusion when our second son was born. We did not have him circumcised. Six months later, the doctors said it had to be done because his foreskin would not relax, and would stay too tight to allow for proper cleaning. We had the procedure done then, for that reason. I agree, it should not be an automatic procedure, but one saved for necessity.
Samantha Barney
I completely agree with you John! I would never mutilate a part of my child if it wasn't a medical necessity.
Cera Vaughn
During pregnancy my husband and I discussed it. I told him it was up to him since I didn't have one. When we took him to the doctor to get it done, she made us sign a form saying that we understood that there was no medical reason to have it done. The procedure was short and the baby (at 2 weeks) hardly even cried. Everything went smoothly and he checked out at his follow up appointment.
Morgan Barker
If there's no medical reason then why do it? For aesthetic reasons, perhaps, but shouldn't that be the choice of the person that's, y'know, getting a piece of his **** cut off?
Cera Vaughn
At 2 weeks old they can't choose whether or not to have it done. And it it isn't and they decide they wanted it done at, say, 20, that would be a horrible experience. I let my husband choose whether or not to have it done for our son since he had his done. I think that circumcision, like a lot of other things, is the parents choice and shouldn't be questioned by other people.
Morgan Barker
What makes you think it isn't a horrible experience for a baby?

And, if you don't mind my asking, what is your opinion on female "circumcision"?
Cera Vaughn
Female circumcision is not the topic at hand. And I don't know if it was or wasn't a horrible experience for him but I do know that it hasn't affected him in the long run. Like I said, people argue about when to take their kids off the bottle, when to get the first haircut, to spank or not to spank, and about a million other things that are the parents' choice alone. I will tell you that I spoke with my doctor in depth about circumcision and was able to make an educated decision based on the information at hand.
Caroline Norris
Neither of my sons cried much at all either and both were healed up within a week or 2. I agree, its a personal decision that should only be up to the parents.
Adrienne L.
My son cried for maybe 10 seconds and I know he won't remember it since it was done before we even left the hospital (I think it was the second day so he was just under 2 days old) I'm glad we did it even if for aesthetics alone :-)
Lindy H.
Many babies go into a type of shock trance sleep after this procedure is done so of course they wouldn't cry very long. This is an unneeded procedure, why else would it be labeled cosmetic surgery?
Cera Vaughn
It is an unnecessary procedure, that's why the doctor is required to have you sign a form saying that they informed you of your decision. If you don't want to have the procedure done for your children, that's perfectly fine, it's your decision. I'm just asking for the same courtesy that I've given you. I have no intention of bashing you for your decision concerning your child so I would ask that you do the same for me.
Adrienne L.
Not in our case Lindy, he was wide awake and happy as a clam, I'm sure people do have different experiences though. I've never heard it referred to as cosmetic surgery either though!
Lindy H.
If you look it up its classified as a cosmetic surgery. That is one reason I am completely against this.
Cera Vaughn
You have a right to be against it, Lindy. And we have a right to be for it. We're not asking you to see it our way, just to respect our opinions and decisions as we are doing for you. Honestly, I am growing tired of having to justify my decision about my son to people that I don't even know.
Lindy H.
Would you have your daughter circumcised Cera? The reason I speak out against this is I see at as a huge human rights violation.
Cera Vaughn
The "circumcision" of a female is not the topic at hand, I don't understand why y'all keep bringing it into the discussion. You might as well "speak out against it" to someone else. You won't be changing my mind.
Lindy H.
We keep bringing it up because apparently in the United States we protect our girls more than we protect our boys. Why do you think that the majority of the rest of the world is intact? It's because this procedure is often not needed. If there is a medical reason for it then it should be addressed after the fact not before. That is like saying that a child may possibly get an ear infection so lets cut off their ears. Obviously that is a silly example but you get my point. I hope eventually its illegal.
Cera Vaughn
Okay, how about this...You do what you want with your children and I'll do what I want with mine. I won't talk down to your for your decisions and you won't talk down to me for mine. That may not be what you want to hear, but it's the adult thing to do. I hope that you have a wonderful circumcision-free life.
Lindy H.
That's the thing you aren't able to do just whatever you want with another human being. But I see I am getting no where with this thread so I will bid you a goodbye.
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