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Any form of verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature, requests for sexual favours and unwelcome sexual advances are considered as sexual harassment. The harasser or the victim may be female or male and may belong to any age group.
Amalthea Darling Sexual harssment is a societal plague. No one owes you their attention, their body, or to look a certain way. Some of the most scary situations of my life have involved me being street harassed and scared to go outside, because of it.
Peg Asus I had on the job sexual harassment when I was in my 20s. I swear i wore sweaters and didn't ask for it, but this creepy guy would always come in when everyone had gone home and would try to rub my shoulders and made me incredibly uncomfortable. It never went further than that, but after I asked him to stop and he didn't, I had to take it to the boss
Nadine Tacelli I worked at sears once, and I had a fellow employee made inappropriate comments, and when I reported him to my supervisor they just laughed and told me "oh, that's just what he does" like it was totally okay to make me feel 100% uncomfortable.
Annie Curt At my old Job sexual harassment was happening. My co-workers spoke Spanish but I knew a little bit myself too. I could hear one of my co-workers saying something sexual about me a couple off times. He was really creepy and always looked at me like I was a steak dinner or something. He always called me his girlfriend too. It was real creepy but not enough to keep me from getting my money.
Emily Hargrove I can't remember if I shared this story before, but it's interesting and it scared the living fire out of me, so I guess I'll just go ahead and post it.
When I was in high school, there was this guy who used to sexually harass me every single day in science class. He would walk by and growl in my ear, breathe on the back of my neck, threaten to rip my clothes off, blah blah. At the time, I had a guy friend who was known around the school as a "fighter"... he was HUGE and while he never started a fight, if you came at him, he'd pound your head into the pavement. I think my breaking point came when I went to the teacher and told her that I was being harassed and she told me that "he was just playing around." So I told my friend what was going on and he let me know that he would handle it.
When my harasser found out that I was reaching out for help, he called me a racist (I'm white, he was not). I'm not sure what about being afraid has to do with racism, but whatever. He was mad.
The next day started out pretty normal, but by science class the whole school was buzzing about how my friend had grabbed my harasser by the shirt, lifted him up off the ground, and slammed him into a wall. He told him that if he ever LOOKED at me again, he would be dust. And sure enough, that was the end of it. He never looked at me again.
Two years later, my harasser was suspended from school for beating another kid upside the head with a chair (I was present for that event actually... not fun to watch) and then our senior year of high school, he shot and killed someone over a bag of weed (not at school... after school, in a park. I wasn't there for that one). Pretty scary, that my teacher passed off his violent remarks as "just playing around" and then a couple of years later, he kills someone. Kind of makes you wonder if he didn't have that in him all along.
Viola Thornell I had one job where I had the commander of a VFW post that I worked for managing the bar that had made a comment about if I didn't have sex with him I would not have a job. I quit my job and also quit drinking so it was a double bonus for me. Later on when I saw the quartermaster of the bar he asked why I quit as I had just left and never went back. I told him why I had quit and he informed that had they had know what was said they would have voted the commander out and got someone else in as commander. They would not have tolerated sexual harassment.
Alaska Y NOT OKAY! I've been in too many jobs where sexual harrasment was tolerated and even came from a few bosses with one job of mine. No one said anything about it even though they were uncomfortable. Eventually after years the gm got fired but it was because of other situations.
Sydney Olivarez sexual harassment is so wrong, i feel like this happens a lot more than people even think it does, i just bet this would be so traumatic and would really make you dread going to work everydayy
Tara Teed I was a bartender for a few months back when I was a bit younger. My boss was an arrogant man almost my fathers age. He walked in with four of his friends and one night they tried paying me $50 to lift my shirt and show my ****. I quit the next day.
Amanda P I think this has happened for years and years, mostly to women, but could also happen to men! I watched a movie with Charlize Theron, based on a true story, back in the 70's, where she worked in a job, mostly where guys worked and the women were harrassed all the time! I have been harrassed myself, numerous of times, but never said anything, as I was extra shy then, but if now, oh hell no! You are getting sued or fired,! It's not cool!
Wendy Green i had a guy sexually harrase me when i was about 16 years old, he tried kissing me a few times and there was even a couple of times that he grabbed my hand and put it on his private area with his kids and my family sitting right there
Crystal Mcfarlane I bel;ieve alot of sexual harrasment happens in schools. The teachers dont do much. Because of society and peer pressure nobody wants to snitch . The person might not have thought of it as that serious .Its a shame.
Rick Mitchell This isn't completely on-topic, but I couldn't find any topics that were any closer. I was reading about an argument between a man who was making somewhat salacious comments about women who cosplay (specifically, Slave Leia cosplayers), and a woman who was calling him sexist for it. The one thing she said that I really didn't understand was, "When I look sexy, I do it for me, not you."
I'm sincerely not trying to troll here, but I really, honestly don't understand the concept there. I guess my conception of the word "sexy" is that it only exists based on other people's perception of you (just like beauty is in the eye of the beholder, thus a person can't be beautiful in practical terms unless there is a beholder to appreciate their beauty). So, essentially, I charge that a person can never truly be "sexy" unless someone else thinks they're sexy, so how can she be doing something that's dependent on outside feedback only for herself? I would interpret it as "When I want you to think I'm sexy, I do it for me, not you." How does that make any sense?
I guess what I'm saying is, isn't the whole point of looking sexy to garner appreciation from others? Ultimately, whether you're trying to look sexy, or pretty, or cute, or handsome, or whatever else, if you're trying to look nice (in whatever form or fashion that takes), isn't that only because you want other people to appreciate how you look? So how can that be "for me, not you?"
Maybe I sound like a male chauvinist pig, I don't know. It wouldn't be the first time I've had no clue about how "normal" people think. But I really would sincerely like to know if there is an explanation or alternate interpretation of that.