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Any form of verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature, requests for sexual favours and unwelcome sexual advances are considered as sexual harassment. The harasser or the victim may be female or male and may belong to any age group.
Sexual harassment may have declined over the years, but it still happens. And when it does happen, it usually goes to the extreme. Us women need to be able to stand up for ourselves and never be afraid to stand up for ourselves.
Sexual harssment is a societal plague. No one owes you their attention, their body, or to look a certain way. Some of the most scary situations of my life have involved me being street harassed and scared to go outside, because of it.
I had on the job sexual harassment when I was in my 20s. I swear i wore sweaters and didn't ask for it, but this creepy guy would always come in when everyone had gone home and would try to rub my shoulders and made me incredibly uncomfortable. It never went further than that, but after I asked him to stop and he didn't, I had to take it to the boss
I worked at sears once, and I had a fellow employee made inappropriate comments, and when I reported him to my supervisor they just laughed and told me "oh, that's just what he does" like it was totally okay to make me feel 100% uncomfortable.
At my old Job sexual harassment was happening. My co-workers spoke Spanish but I knew a little bit myself too. I could hear one of my co-workers saying something sexual about me a couple off times. He was really creepy and always looked at me like I was a steak dinner or something. He always called me his girlfriend too. It was real creepy but not enough to keep me from getting my money.
I can't remember if I shared this story before, but it's interesting and it scared the living fire out of me, so I guess I'll just go ahead and post it.
When I was in high school, there was this guy who used to sexually harass me every single day in science class. He would walk by and growl in my ear, breathe on the back of my neck, threaten to rip my clothes off, blah blah. At the time, I had a guy friend who was known around the school as a "fighter"... he was HUGE and while he never started a fight, if you came at him, he'd pound your head into the pavement. I think my breaking point came when I went to the teacher and told her that I was being harassed and she told me that "he was just playing around." So I told my friend what was going on and he let me know that he would handle it.
When my harasser found out that I was reaching out for help, he called me a racist (I'm white, he was not). I'm not sure what about being afraid has to do with racism, but whatever. He was mad.
The next day started out pretty normal, but by science class the whole school was buzzing about how my friend had grabbed my harasser by the shirt, lifted him up off the ground, and slammed him into a wall. He told him that if he ever LOOKED at me again, he would be dust. And sure enough, that was the end of it. He never looked at me again.
Two years later, my harasser was suspended from school for beating another kid upside the head with a chair (I was present for that event actually... not fun to watch) and then our senior year of high school, he shot and killed someone over a bag of weed (not at school... after school, in a park. I wasn't there for that one). Pretty scary, that my teacher passed off his violent remarks as "just playing around" and then a couple of years later, he kills someone. Kind of makes you wonder if he didn't have that in him all along.
I had one job where I had the commander of a VFW post that I worked for managing the bar that had made a comment about if I didn't have sex with him I would not have a job. I quit my job and also quit drinking so it was a double bonus for me. Later on when I saw the quartermaster of the bar he asked why I quit as I had just left and never went back. I told him why I had quit and he informed that had they had know what was said they would have voted the commander out and got someone else in as commander. They would not have tolerated sexual harassment.
NOT OKAY! I've been in too many jobs where sexual harrasment was tolerated and even came from a few bosses with one job of mine. No one said anything about it even though they were uncomfortable. Eventually after years the gm got fired but it was because of other situations.