Sexual Harassment
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Any form of verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature, requests for sexual favours and unwelcome sexual advances are considered as sexual harassment. The harasser or the victim may be female or male and may belong to any age group. 

Do you think this is an increasing trend today? 

In my opinion, sexual harassment is a form of power tripping, most of the abusers are in the higher rank or the bosses. They think that employees will not talk about it since they might lose their job. I think that large companies should be required to have a women's protection section.

Sadly enough this is now happening to men as well so although I agree about the protection section it should be open to all sexes working in a business.

I'm just grateful that I have never been a victim of sexual harassment. It's obviously something horrible to experience, and I imagine people (both men and women) then become victimised in the workplace if they say no to that BS, and ultimately get squeezed out.

People in workplaces seem to wave around their authority over the place and the ones under them seem to be in some perpetual fear of losing their jobs so they are ready to comply with anything proposed to hem sometimes

I think there needs to be a more severe punishment when it comes to sexual harassment ESPECIALLY if it is against a child. The men and women who do these types of things to anyone should be more afraid of the consequences.

Sexual harassment are happening everywhere, it is sad to think that even children are victims of this, and people doing must face punishment.

It seems to be happening more and more as many people both male or female are tend to welcome it. In the end, when the offender feels confident they can do it, that's when they start complaining.

The first job I ever had was terrible. The secretary would talk sexually to the workers who were not interested because they were married and when they would not respond the way she wanted she would racially attack them. Tell them they were just wetbacks. She was fired.

The first job I ever had I also hated. The manager would do things with certain employees and in return give them more hours or more money. He tried many times with me and gave a lot of improper passes. I was still in school and never told my grandparents, though now I wish I had.

sexual harrasment must be punished by hard, since this will make female feel inconvinience, actually on the public placethat s it

I do think it's an increasing trend, only because there is a fine line that is always being crossed. I understand if many men feel afraid to be intimate because this has become huge problem.

There are two types of crime that I really hate. One is rape and the other is sexual harrassment. Usually the male commits these sort of crime and they are absolutely disgusting. Why can't they leave the victims alone?

When sexual harassment is mentioned, it is always the male who is at fault. I still have to read a case that a woman is sued for that crime.

I have heard that even children get sexual harassment. They don't even know what is happening to their body at that time.

Alex, Some male individuals think they are superior to women so they have the power to own their body.

I agree, the offender are usually males. But just to be fair, I think there are still some males who are powerless and being abused by their female or gay superiors. Just saying . :P

Statistically speaking, women are most often the victims of sexual harassment and sexual assault. It does not mean that men are never victims of it, Alex, no one made such a claim.

Kathleen, you're right. Men too can be victims of sexual harassment, but not as many as women come forward. It's a bit like spousal abuse, it can happen to both men and women, but men don't always report it.

I have been sexually harassed since I was in 5th grade. Everyone from teachers to bosses to strangers on the train have crossed the line. It feels impossible to escape it. I wonder why men think it is ok to hit on every woman they meet.

I am really sorry that from you Nicole. Probably, you need to learn some self-defense tips or always bring a pepper spray with you.

I agree! Some physical defense would be great for you. My classmates before bring pepper sprays and they said that have practiced using it. I hope those harassers will be gone to your life

I honestly think that sexual harassment is the worst thing that can happen to anyone and find it really disgusting. The perpetrators must really has deep embedded issues and need full psychological assistance! I am totally again this kind of behavior in any way, shape and form!

Thank God I've never been subjected to sexual harassment! I don't think I've ever been privy to it at all, so I don't know what the trend is.

I have a female friend who worked in Kuwait as a domestic helper. Her male boss sexually harassed her but since the boss is handsome, my friend fell for the boss who eventually became her lover. What a story eh?

Wow, that's awful! Maybe she had other situations she didn't tell you about which meant being with this man helped her out? I just couldn't do it, I would probably end up hating him!

Oh wow, so that made the harassment a bit 'positive' on the female? Yeah, maybe there are some points about the guy that made her in love with him. But still, what a story

Disgusting, absolutely disgusting. If something called respect existed in every mind and lived by, then this would not be a problem. It's sad that it is.

I am a guy and I have experienced it from a former boss. Since i made such good money back then I just rolled with it.

Oh wow, James what a predicament you must have been in. I can;t judge you for having chosen the money over leaving your job because of the harassment. I do hope that former boss of yours got his lesson somewhere and somehow.

I am sorry to hear that you had to deal with this, James. Like Ellen said, hope the boss will get a lesson somehow...

Usually, professors are not ones that would sexually harass students. I would worry more about college students going on Tinder and OkCupid. Men on dating sites are ruthless, especially when you turn them down.

You are being kind of judgemental. I personally use Tinder and met two guys from it, one that is definitely friend with benefits material. Obviously, some guys are exactly like you described them, but not all of them.

Sexual harassment exist at different places so I am kind of worried about my daughter since she'll be off to college soon. If she ends up studying music, I hope her teacher and other students are decent people.

Sexual harassment arises from the power or authority of another to that of the underling like a boss and subordinate, teacher and student.

I believe it is an increasing trend and were it not for the available laws it could have been worse than it is

I work with this guy, he's 26 and I'm 20. We're friends because he dated another coworker and I refuse to be a "second choice" by dating him. He invited me to his house the other night to watch movies and drink wine, but everything escalated very quickly. He was really drunk. We were laying on his bed together, just kind of snuggling, when he climbed on top of me and literally started shoving his tongue down my throat. I was trying really hard to breathe/not gag. I'm not saying I'm completely mortified by that, but I guess I didn't really know what I wanted at that point. He then asked if he should get a condom, and I told him no because I don't have sex with people I'm not in a relationship with. But he wouldn't get off of me. He kept telling me to take my pants off and that he wanted to be inside of me, I told him no. He kept ripping my shirt up and took off my bra he kept shoving his hand down my pants and playing around and tickling me, but wouldn't let me move at all. I tried to pull his hand out of my pants but I couldn't. He pretty big while I am pretty small (height-wise) and I really felt trapped. It lasted about an hour. I feel like I didn't really do anything to make him stop, but at the same time I didn't really enjoy any of it. I kind of felt violated after. I don't really know how to feel about this.

I would not want to feel like i am condemning you but i guess the first mistake you did is to agree to go to his house being just the two of you. If it was really about a movie i think you could have gone for one somewhere in public but never in a private place. However whatever has happened has happened and life continues,maybe it would be better to see a specialist who can help you get through the ordeal lest it haunt you

Definitely not your fault at all. Anyone who says that it partially happened because you made a mistake by trusting him is perpetuating rape culture and validating his criminal actions. No one ever goes anywhere to be sexually assaulted or have someone exploit their trust and no one should ever have to feel that it was their fault that they went somewhere to watch movies and had someone do something as awful as touching you and ignoring your direct statements to stop.
He misled you by stating he wanted you over for movies and wine and what he did was not okay and was a criminal act. If you told him no it is, by definition, sexual assault and is never, ever your fault.
If you need to talk to someone to get your head around it please seek someone qualified out.

@Margaret: what you are doing is victim blaming. It's not her fault AT ALL. She agreed to go into a house. She didn't agree to sex.
Jessica, I'm sorry you had to go through this, but I hope you know it's not your fault. You did nothing wrong.

Margaret..seriously....!! It doesnt matter whoever goes into their place or not....a victim should not sexually abused or assaulted in whatever reasons. I could invite someone to my private place, and that doesnt necessarily mean that I want or think about that attitude....its always the fault of whoever the person that committed that attitude.

@Margaret no, it was not a mistake to go to his house when she thought she could trust him! No means no, end of discussion!

Pardon me, Jessica, but I think it is your fault because in the first place, you had accepted his invitation. As they say in the guy's house... enter at your own risk. Maybe next time you go with the guy you desire.

Alex, you are completely disgusting. Yes, she agreed to enter the house. That's what she agreed for. Nothing more. She never gave consent to anything else.

I feel sorry about what happened to you. But, why were you in his bed? You can call me grandpa but if you were careful enough you should have realized that you weren't supposed to be in his bedroom.

I would not call you grandpa, I would call you a disgusting victim blaming sexist moron. Being in a bedroom does not mean anything about giving consent to sex.

sexual harassment is really a bad practice and something that is now affecting both genders and hope this can be rectified and this is the hope and prayer of many here that they will device good ways already
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