Sexual Harassment
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Any form of verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature, requests for sexual favours and unwelcome sexual advances are considered as sexual harassment. The harasser or the victim may be female or male and may belong to any age group. 

Do you think this is an increasing trend today? 
Kris Stowers
I've worked at places where sexual harassment was the norm and considered harmless flirting even when it crossed the line and it often did!
Peg Asus
I had on the job sexual harassment when I was in my 20s. I swear i wore sweaters and didn't ask for it, but this creepy guy would always come in when everyone had gone home and would try to rub my shoulders and made me incredibly uncomfortable. It never went further than that, but after I asked him to stop and he didn't, I had to take it to the boss
Fred Armisen
I'd like to point out that THIS DOES NOT ONLY HAPPEN TO WOMEN, it's wrong to stereotype this to men only.
Liz Loves
We used to have a 40ish woman who preyed on the younger men in the company. I walked in one morning to discover them frolicking in the office. She faked a pregnancy and miscarriage and convinced him to marry her right after dumping her husband. This was her 4th time.
Lei D.
Boys go through sexual harassment too. I do not know what you are talking about. the only reason why people think boys dont is because they are "tougher"America is messed up...
Peg Asus
I totally agree, Fred. I have two sons, I absolutely would not want this to happen to them. I definitely think it's wrong to stereotype it that only women get harrassed.
Victoria Sheffield
This is a real thing. No one should feel as if they are being harassed like this while they are trying to earn a living.
Lei D.
Huh? Wait, what? While they are trying to earn a living? What if it is in their own home,at school,etc. I mean jobs aren't the only places it takes place.
Nadine Tacelli
I worked at sears once, and I had a fellow employee made inappropriate comments, and when I reported him to my supervisor they just laughed and told me "oh, that's just what he does" like it was totally okay to make me feel 100% uncomfortable.
Emily Hargrove
Unfortunately supervisors very rarely take that kind of thing seriously. They make you watch the filmstrip and give a big speech about sexual harassment, but if someone makes you uncomfortable, it's just playing around.
Annie Curt
At my old Job sexual harassment was happening. My co-workers spoke Spanish but I knew a little bit myself too. I could hear one of my co-workers saying something sexual about me a couple off times. He was really creepy and always looked at me like I was a steak dinner or something. He always called me his girlfriend too. It was real creepy but not enough to keep me from getting my money.
Emily Hargrove
I can't remember if I shared this story before, but it's interesting and it scared the living fire out of me, so I guess I'll just go ahead and post it.

When I was in high school, there was this guy who used to sexually harass me every single day in science class. He would walk by and growl in my ear, breathe on the back of my neck, threaten to rip my clothes off, blah blah. At the time, I had a guy friend who was known around the school as a "fighter"... he was HUGE and while he never started a fight, if you came at him, he'd pound your head into the pavement. I think my breaking point came when I went to the teacher and told her that I was being harassed and she told me that "he was just playing around." So I told my friend what was going on and he let me know that he would handle it.

When my harasser found out that I was reaching out for help, he called me a racist (I'm white, he was not). I'm not sure what about being afraid has to do with racism, but whatever. He was mad.

The next day started out pretty normal, but by science class the whole school was buzzing about how my friend had grabbed my harasser by the shirt, lifted him up off the ground, and slammed him into a wall. He told him that if he ever LOOKED at me again, he would be dust. And sure enough, that was the end of it. He never looked at me again.

Two years later, my harasser was suspended from school for beating another kid upside the head with a chair (I was present for that event actually... not fun to watch) and then our senior year of high school, he shot and killed someone over a bag of weed (not at school... after school, in a park. I wasn't there for that one). Pretty scary, that my teacher passed off his violent remarks as "just playing around" and then a couple of years later, he kills someone. Kind of makes you wonder if he didn't have that in him all along.
Ashlee H
That's definitely scary! I'm really glad your friend managed to help you fend off a potentially dangerous situation. That's just awful.
Warren Weil
That is one hell of a story!!!You never know how people and their behavior may escalate in the future.Violence can grow on its own...like an evil child
Viola Thornell
I had one job where I had the commander of a VFW post that I worked for managing the bar that had made a comment about if I didn't have sex with him I would not have a job. I quit my job and also quit drinking so it was a double bonus for me. Later on when I saw the quartermaster of the bar he asked why I quit as I had just left and never went back. I told him why I had quit and he informed that had they had know what was said they would have voted the commander out and got someone else in as commander. They would not have tolerated sexual harassment.
Emily Hargrove
Which is why women need to stand up and report that kind of thing. I think most are like you, or they're too afraid to say anything, and the guy gets away with it. People don't take it seriously because not enough women go above these guy's heads and try to get something done.
C W
I remember when my job used to make us attend Sexual Harassment meetings where we would all sit together in a tiny room and watch a cheesy video where the guy was being harassed.
Alaska Y
NOT OKAY! I've been in too many jobs where sexual harrasment was tolerated and even came from a few bosses with one job of mine. No one said anything about it even though they were uncomfortable. Eventually after years the gm got fired but it was because of other situations.
Nadine Tacelli
Yup! I worked somewhere where I was laughed at for being too sensitive when i was being harrassed. Finally, i went on my break and never came back.
Alaska Y
Yeah tha's ridiculous. Harrassment is a sensitive issue giving you clear rights to be sensitive. HAHA I almost did the same. I decided to not show up for work and enjoy my day in downtown Chicago instead. They said they could just write me up and I could come back the next day but I told them no thanks.
Sydney Olivarez
sexual harassment is so wrong, i feel like this happens a lot more than people even think it does, i just bet this would be so traumatic and would really make you dread going to work everydayy
Lindsey M
I had to take a sexual harassment test for my job on campus and I aced it lol. 100% I was worried about getting one wrong and I felt like that woulda been awkward.
Yasmin S
This is interesting. I have never heard of that, what's it for like why is it necessary? or required in your job
Lindsey M
That is pretty common...it is so people understand what sexual harassment is. That way there will not be sexual harassment during our job hours.
Sydney Olivarez
Wow a sexual harassment test? That sounds intense ! lol thank god you aced it, i feel like you do, just getting one wrong would really make a difference in how i see myself as a person!
Yasmin S
Wow this is good to know of all the ways you can get tested, and what kind of job do you have? and agree, i probably too would feel weird with getting even just one wrong!
Tara Teed
I was a bartender for a few months back when I was a bit younger. My boss was an arrogant man almost my fathers age. He walked in with four of his friends and one night they tried paying me $50 to lift my shirt and show my ****. I quit the next day.
Dexter Morgan
Good for you. The world is littered with people who try to take advantage of someone else's troubles. So what did you do with the money?
Amanda P
I think this has happened for years and years, mostly to women, but could also happen to men! I watched a movie with Charlize Theron, based on a true story, back in the 70's, where she worked in a job, mostly where guys worked and the women were harrassed all the time! I have been harrassed myself, numerous of times, but never said anything, as I was extra shy then, but if now, oh hell no! You are getting sued or fired,! It's not cool!
Mac Pike
I think they should put their minds and forensic skills into finding this guy Harris and locking him away for all of his naughtiness!
Wendy Green
i had a guy sexually harrase me when i was about 16 years old, he tried kissing me a few times and there was even a couple of times that he grabbed my hand and put it on his private area with his kids and my family sitting right there
Crystal Mcfarlane
I bel;ieve alot of sexual harrasment happens in schools. The teachers dont do much. Because of society and peer pressure nobody wants to snitch . The person might not have thought of it as that serious .Its a shame.
Rick Mitchell
This isn't completely on-topic, but I couldn't find any topics that were any closer. I was reading about an argument between a man who was making somewhat salacious comments about women who cosplay (specifically, Slave Leia cosplayers), and a woman who was calling him sexist for it. The one thing she said that I really didn't understand was, "When I look sexy, I do it for me, not you."

I'm sincerely not trying to troll here, but I really, honestly don't understand the concept there. I guess my conception of the word "sexy" is that it only exists based on other people's perception of you (just like beauty is in the eye of the beholder, thus a person can't be beautiful in practical terms unless there is a beholder to appreciate their beauty). So, essentially, I charge that a person can never truly be "sexy" unless someone else thinks they're sexy, so how can she be doing something that's dependent on outside feedback only for herself? I would interpret it as "When I want you to think I'm sexy, I do it for me, not you." How does that make any sense?

I guess what I'm saying is, isn't the whole point of looking sexy to garner appreciation from others? Ultimately, whether you're trying to look sexy, or pretty, or cute, or handsome, or whatever else, if you're trying to look nice (in whatever form or fashion that takes), isn't that only because you want other people to appreciate how you look? So how can that be "for me, not you?"

Maybe I sound like a male chauvinist pig, I don't know. It wouldn't be the first time I've had no clue about how "normal" people think. But I really would sincerely like to know if there is an explanation or alternate interpretation of that.
Ashlee H
No. She wants to look good for herself. She thinks she looks nice. That doesn't mean she's trying to garner appreciation from others.

Have you ever looked in a mirror and said, "Dang! I look good!" That's the same thing. She wants to look good for her. I put make up on so I think I look nice. I don't care what other people think when they seem me, it's what I think.
Emily Hargrove
I see what you're saying, but I think in a way, you're missing how the female mind works. Why do women wear makeup, every single day, even when we're not going out on a date? Because it makes us feel GOOD. That's why we get our nails done, get our hair done, go clothes shopping, go shoe shopping... it's not for male attention, it's because those things make us feel good about ourselves on a PERSONAL level. I love my red lipstick. I know a lot of guys who think it's weird and say I would look better off without it, but I don't care what society thinks of how I look. I think it looks GOOD.

That's why women all wear their hair different or different styles of makeup or clothes. If we all wanted to fit into the "sexy" profile, we'd all look exactly the same. Yes, you do have some that strive to be that way (when I was in school, it was the girls who bleached their hair and wore the same t-shirt so you couldn't tell them apart in a crowd). But for the most part, women get an image of what they want to look like in their head, and they go for it. It's not about men, it's about US.
Nadia Abdul
In some ways, I agree that we dress up or try to look good for us. But, in other ways, we have to put on a facade of looking good and well put-together...not just women, but men have to do this too. It's what makes us professional/employable too--who wants to hire and/or keep someone who looks like they came out of a trash can--it's sad, but true. Lookism exists.
Nadia Abdul
And sometimes, we try to look our best..I hate to say this, but to compete with other women..again. it's all about lookism.
Penelope L
I've been experiencing sexual harassment since I was 10, and trust me I was not a hot 10 year old. It's not about looks, I think it's more about the power and honestly for some guys, the age. Gross.
Jatavia Evans
theres more happening they sometimes do it in the halls at school boys always all over girls they sometimes corner u into a small space so u cant leave i hate it
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